Sex Therapy

WHAT EXACTLY IS IT?

Sex therapy is a specialized form of talk therapy in which a client can address concerns and feelings surrounding their sexual confidence, satisfaction, functioning, and identity. Individuals and couples typically seek out sex therapy when they are finding they are no longer able to make change without the added support and guidance of a specialized clinician. This form of psychotherapy allows people an opportunity to talk openly, without judgement or shame, about this vulnerable and essential part of their lives. Though the goal of therapy may be sexually focused, it is typical that factors outside of sex in the client's life require attention in order to create change (e.g. anxiety, stress, depression). 

Are you a good fit FOR SEX THERAPY? 

Take a moment to read through the list below. Do you hear yourself (or your partner) in any of these statements? (Pronouns interchangeable.)

  • The sex I’m having is fine, but I feel like it could be better.
  • When we started dating we had such a hot sex life, but now we barely touch each other. I don’t get it! What happened? 
  • Every time I am about to have sex I start to freak out and get so nervous, but she doesn’t even know it until I cum too fast
  • I can't try anymore, it hurts so badly!
  • I love her and want to be with her, but I’m just not interested in sex really. I can tell it hurts her and I feel so guilty about that. 
  • I want to have sex but my penis won't stay hard.
  • I'm just so anxious, I can't relax.
  • Enough is enough. We can’t keep avoiding this huge elephant in the room. 
  • Sex feels good, but I can’t orgasm
  • I am so scared that I’m going to cheat on my partner and ruin our lives.
  • All my life I’ve been told to not have sex until marriage. Now I’m married and I can’t seem to enjoy or want it! 
  • Masturbating and porn have always been my go-to, but now I worry it is affecting my relationship.
  • I don't get turned on by her because she won't even listen to what I'm feeling.
  • When we are having sex it feels good, I stay hard, but I can't seem to cum
  • I thought I had recovered from the sexual abuse, but sometimes I feel so overcome by it.
  • I thought I knew her. I thought she loved me. I thought everything was perfect in our lives. How could she have cheated on me? 
  • I think I want to open up my relationship and try out kink, how do I do it?

If you hear yourself in any combination of these statements, you may be a great fit for sex therapy where you can start to get answers to your questions and start to get away from what is making you feel so stuck! Connect with me and let's get you on the path to change!

COMMON PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES AFFECTING Sexual Functioning:

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Other Mood Disorders
  • Grief
  • Stress
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
  • Addictions
  • Self-Esteem
  • Trauma and PTSD

Together we will assess for these issues to determine whether or not they have been, or are currently, affecting your sexual relationship. In order to treat the sexual struggles you are facing, it may be the case that we focus first on treating these psychological barriers. Once you feel free from and in control of your emotional and cognitive obstacles, it will be much easier to address the sexual dynamics that are causing you pain